The path
Community, including the community of one
You do not have to find your coven before you are allowed to practice. If you do gather, gather kindly.
Pagan talk sometimes treats a solitary person as a cocoon and a coven as the butterfly. That metaphor is rude, and it is historically sloppy. Plenty of practitioners have always worked alone. Plenty of queer people have been pushed out of groups that claimed to be about nature and were, in practice, about someone else’s comfort.
Solitary is a whole shape
If you live with people who should not know, if you are new, if you are tired of groups, you can do every rite in this library alone. Nothing important is withheld for a future inner circle.
Small groups
Two or three people who trust each other can share an altar. Decide in advance who speaks, who can stop the rite by saying so, and how you will leave if you need to. Do not spring a deity, a confession, or a sexual tone on someone who came for tea. The small-group page has a plain agenda.
Chosen family
The people who fed you, hid you, hired you, or sat with you in a waiting room may be honored as ancestors of care even while they are living — ask first if you use their name aloud in a group — and after death without asking a bloodline for permission. The ancestor page refuses the idea that cruelty is owed reverence because it shares your surname.
What we are not building, yet
There is no Wilde Altar congregation, no dues, and no one authorized to speak for “the community” in this name. When classes exist, they will say so on the study pages, with a real way to join. Until then, beware of anyone online who claims to enroll you on our behalf.